I know what you might be thinking right now... Oh my god, Nisha.. what happened? Nothing! The thing is sometimes when you're arguing with your husband and in so much anger, you probably have this question come flying. I guess every marriage has to go through this period. I'm glad somehow i did have this episode, which is embarrassing to admit though. I felt like i cheated on my husband. But then after we made up, the anger subsided then all the thought just seemed ridiculous. That's when i knew. This is it. No matter how angry you can get with your better half and you probably feel like you want to kill him at that moment*not literally though* somehow when he says the perfect thing, you just realize why you chose him in the first place.
Having to talk about this, i started looking back in time. Where i was 8 years ago. I was 22 years old, studying in University, met an adorable man who happens to be my savior. Not only did he safe me physically but also mentally and emotionally. I am and will be forever in debt for that. But today i am married to another man who happens to understand my independence and freedom and loves me for who i am. I still remember the dating period. It was sweet. Being a gentleman, he puts me first, calls me to say hi, pulls out the chair for me, lets me walk inside next to him while he walks at the edge of traffic, allows me to have my favorites, and on and on... Yes.. today we're married. These things on the list has reduced... he forgets to do some of those stuff... but i guess it doesn't matter. Like that skeleton... you can die waiting for the perfect man whom we believe does not exist. And even if he does exist and he looks like Homer... THANKS!! But NO THANKS!!! i rather not... I decided to accept the fact that my husband isn't perfect *he doesn't think so* He's just normal just the way he is. .. but he's real and there for me.
So i guess what i'm trying to say is that cut the men some slack. Clear our heart. Let it go. Life's a journey. It's not a fairy tale..We shouldn't waste our time thinking of what if... since we got something sweet and nice working here, all it takes is a little more effort from both parties. You just need to make some adjustments. I know what you're thinking. Adjustments? Why? But i hate to tell you this, no partnership will ever work without some sort of understanding and adjustments. Only then it would work smoothly. Otherwise you'd end up fighting and arguing..why? because adjustment is compromising..
And when you do take that effort..and compromise.. everything else will fall into place. You would probably feel like it's all meant to be and that you're perfect for each other...and at that time, yes you both are perfect man and woman...but for each other. You might not argue anymore.. cause you understand each other so well. I know i have a lot to work for.. to reach that level, but at least i acknowledge that i am not perfect either.. and before we start pointing fingers for blame.. we should look at ourselves too.. So i guess this is sort of like my 2012 New Year's Resolution... to make effort and compromise....and also to reduce this stubborn inches off my waist...
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