Anyway..lets come to my question in hand. "Why is it so hard to make friends after 30"?? Why? Really? I mean i know when you're in school (either primary or secondary including tuition centers) you get to meet a lot of friends in those venues. It's easy. You guys have so much in common.. you play together.. you joke around.. it's as easy as ABC.. And when you go to college or university, some of your good school friends either decided to follow (as you have probably discussed earlier) you or decided to stay in touch whenever you come home for a visit. Then you complete your studies...and head to the working life.. You realize some of your genuine friends are still around, through the hard and the good times.. But of course sometimes they fail and fall-out-of-friendship... So...now that you're working... you meet some friends in your work place. You take that coffee break, talk about work...and of course gossip... hehehe and movies, life...husbands, wives.. and so much more.. You go out for lunch and share the rest of the stuff too..
Annual dinners, team building events.. and you're simply inseparable... you adore your friends because you realize he/she knows you as well as yourself. Your husbands or wives might not even know you that well. Why? Because these friends are not judgmental and they're sincere. No matter what you guys discuss it's between the 2 of you and it stays between the 2 of you. Now that's a true friendship.
Ask yourselves.. How many of us are blessed with such friends? Or how many friends do you have? Imagine you got many friends but they're not genuine or sincere but if you have 1 genuine friend that makes up for everything. It's that simple. But sometimes when you're married... especially if you're a woman, you realize most of your female friends are either married and went their separate ways with their husbands or they moved to different states to work..but mostly married and moved away. Truth be told. So you end up alone. I don't know how these men manage to stay friends with their primary school friends..still... even when they are working... I should salute them... they're good... but i guess there are other issues..lets not talk about it..
Anyway... since my husband is in the entertainment industry...sometimes i get some alone time.. well.. alittle too much for my liking... he goes off to S'pore and other places for comedy shows and work too... I get bored at home. I do have one really good friend but how often can you keep calling the same friend out on a week... especially when sometimes she's busy with work... so times like this, i wish i had other good friends i can call to come over for a slumber party (stay over) or go out for a drink... or dinner... just hang out... talk girlie things... When i thought well i can just make new friends... i realized it's not easy. Where do i meet them? When you're Christian or Catholic you can meet friends in the common Church they go to. So where should i go? Dance class? Cooking class?? Hmm.... sounds nice but really?
So how do someone make friends after 30? Anyone?
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