Have you ever felt like you might have married the wrong man?

I know what you might be thinking right now... Oh my god, Nisha.. what happened? Nothing! The thing is sometimes when you're arguing with your husband and in so much anger, you probably have this question come flying. I guess every marriage has to go through this period. I'm glad somehow i did have this episode, which is embarrassing to admit though. I felt like i cheated on my husband. But then after we made up, the anger subsided then all the thought just seemed ridiculous. That's when i knew. This is it. No matter how angry you can get with your better half and you probably feel like you want to kill him at that moment*not literally though* somehow when he says the perfect thing, you just realize why you chose him in the first place.
      
Having to talk about this, i started looking back in time. Where i was 8 years ago. I was 22 years old, studying in University, met an adorable man who happens to be my savior. Not only did he safe me physically but also mentally and emotionally. I am and will be forever in debt for that. But today i am married to another man who happens to understand my independence and freedom and loves me for who i am. I still remember the dating period. It was sweet. Being a gentleman, he puts me first, calls me to say hi, pulls out the chair for me, lets me walk inside next to him while he walks at the edge of traffic, allows me to have my favorites, and on and on... Yes.. today we're married. These things on the list has reduced... he forgets to do some of those stuff... but i guess it doesn't matter. Like that skeleton... you can die waiting for the perfect man whom we believe does not exist. And even if he does exist and he looks like Homer... THANKS!! But NO THANKS!!! i rather not... I decided to accept the fact that my husband isn't perfect *he doesn't think so* He's just normal just the way he is. .. but he's real and there for me.


So i guess what i'm trying to say is that cut the men some slack. Clear our heart. Let it go. Life's a journey. It's not a fairy tale..We shouldn't waste our time thinking of what if... since we got something sweet and nice working here, all it takes is a little more effort from both parties. You just need to make some adjustments. I know what you're thinking. Adjustments? Why? But i hate to tell you this, no partnership will ever work without some sort of understanding and adjustments. Only then it would work smoothly. Otherwise you'd end up fighting and arguing..why? because adjustment is compromising..


And when you do take that effort..and compromise.. everything else will fall into place. You would probably feel like it's all meant to be and that you're perfect for each other...and at that time, yes you both are perfect man and woman...but for each other. You might not argue anymore.. cause you understand each other so well. I know i have a lot to work for.. to reach that level, but at least i acknowledge that i am not perfect either.. and before we start pointing fingers for blame.. we should look at ourselves too.. So i guess this is sort of like my 2012 New Year's Resolution... to make effort and compromise....and also to reduce this stubborn inches off my waist...

Why is it so hard to make friends after 30??

Hey..first of all i know it's been so very long since i last posted something here. I really don't know how people do this on regular basis... gosh sometimes when your day is so hectic, you look forward to coming home from work to some rest and peace of mind.. and when i get home.. i just get really lazy especially blogging... hehehehe... excuses...excuses... yeah..yeah...yeah... what's new? Hehehehe sorry.. can't help it.
    
Anyway..lets come to my question in hand. "Why is it so hard to make friends after 30"?? Why? Really? I mean i know when you're in school (either primary or secondary including tuition centers) you get to meet a lot of friends in those venues. It's easy. You guys have so much in common.. you play together.. you joke around.. it's as easy as ABC.. And when you go to college or university, some of your good school friends either decided to follow (as you have probably discussed earlier) you or decided to stay in touch whenever you come home for a visit. Then you complete your studies...and head to the working life.. You realize some of your genuine friends are still around, through the hard and the good times.. But of course sometimes they fail and fall-out-of-friendship... So...now that you're working... you meet some friends in your work place. You take that coffee break, talk about work...and of course gossip... hehehe and movies, life...husbands, wives.. and so much more.. You go out for lunch and share the rest of the stuff too..
                    
Annual dinners, team building events.. and you're simply inseparable... you adore your friends because you realize he/she knows you as well as yourself. Your husbands or wives might not even know you that well. Why? Because these friends are not judgmental and they're sincere. No matter what you guys discuss it's between the 2 of you and it stays between the 2 of you. Now that's a true friendship.
Ask yourselves.. How many  of us are blessed with such friends? Or how many friends do you have? Imagine  you got many friends but they're not genuine or sincere but if you have 1 genuine friend that makes up for everything. It's that simple. But sometimes when you're married... especially if you're a woman, you realize most of your female friends are either married and went their separate ways with their husbands or they moved to different states to work..but mostly married and moved away. Truth be told. So you end up alone. I don't know how these men manage to stay friends with their primary school friends..still... even when they are working... I should salute them... they're good... but i guess there are other issues..lets not talk about it..
Anyway... since my husband is in the entertainment industry...sometimes i get some alone time.. well.. alittle too much for my liking... he goes off to S'pore and other places for comedy shows and work too... I get bored at  home. I do have one really good friend but how often can you keep calling the same friend out on a week... especially when sometimes she's busy with work... so times like this, i wish i had other good friends i can call to come over for a slumber party (stay over) or go out for a drink... or dinner... just hang out... talk girlie things... When i thought well i can just make new friends... i realized it's not easy. Where do i meet them? When you're Christian or Catholic you can meet friends in the common Church they go to. So where should i go? Dance class? Cooking class?? Hmm.... sounds nice but really?

So how do someone make friends after 30? Anyone?